If it’s never your fault, you can’t take responsibility for it. If you can’t take responsibility for it, you’ll always be its victim.
~ Richard Bach, Messiah’s Handbook
The essence of this quotation has been with me for a long time. I have found it very powerful. I know, it is loaded with ugly words like fault and victim. Some of you may, unfortunately, include responsibility in the ugly category. If so, I’d like to change your mind!
I suppose another way of saying the same thing might be: Continue reading “If it’s never your fault …”
How often do you hear yourself begin a response with “I can’t … I never … I always …”?
“I never take a break when there’s a deadline.”
“I can’t do that – I’m not talented enough.”
“No, I won’t drive through town – I always take the highway.”
Scan the various areas of your life (home, parenting, relationships, work, recreation…). Listen for your inner I Never … I Can’t … I Always …”. My “favorite” such phrases have included: Continue reading “Catch Yourself!”
Do you ever feel like:
- you are being pulled in too many directions?
- there is too much being asked of you?
- YOU are responsible for that person and that activity and this …?
Is it all too much? Recently, I read The Joy of Burnout by Dr. Dina Glouberman, where she provided a visual that describes this situation beautifully:
Picture someone or something you are over invested in. Imagine that your energy is like rays, or I like to say strands of spaghetti, coming out of a hole in the top of your head. The ends of the spaghetti are stuck in that person or thing.
My imagination traded in that spaghetti for my blood vessels and I quite literally saw my life energy flowing out of me into those others.
Pick either image, close your eyes, and feel into it for a moment.
Imagine a strand for each attachment that drains you.
Continue reading “Energy Drains: take back your life!”
I used to feel motivated for this work. I was excited, unstoppable, energized. Now I feel dead inside. What happened to me? Where did my passion go?
Sound like you?
If so, then what follows is just one perspective you may find helpful.
Continue reading “Where did my passion go?”
We’ve all met face to face with them – the hard and fast (or soft and arbitrary) deadlines we’ve been asked to meet. Whether is’s a task at work, the child needing a ride to practice that begins in two minutes, or the self-imposed, “I should call so-and-so who is struggling.”, deadlines seems to be a non-negotiable part of life.
BUT … I am writing to suggest that we just might want to reconsider something. Really, DEADlines? How many of the things we label deadlines really are a matter of life and death? Continue reading “Deadlines!”