Circle of Giving

Never deny anyone the opportunity to be helpful.
~ Jamie Loehnis

This week, I took my scooter to  the local thrift shop. I found a rather large item which was perfect for the current creative project. I bought it – knowing that I might need to take the scooter home and trade it out for the car in order to get it to my house.

In the parking lot, a woman asked me, “What is that?” (Yes, it was an odd looking thing!) I told her that I really didn’t know what it was but, rather, how I was planning to use it. Then she watched me attempt to get this thing onto my scooter unsuccessfully. And she said,

How about I put it in my car and follow you home?

That’s when my husband’s words rang in my heart:

Never deny anyone the opportunity to be helpful.

So I responded: “Yes. Thank you! That would be very nice.”

I may never see her again. She will never see the creation that I’ll make with this indescribable object. But, she showed me humanity as generous and kind. I gave her the opportunity to give.  We shared a moment in the circle of giving. Here are some lyrics which speak to the circle where we not only help one another materially, but also in our hearts and spirits:

Circle of Giving (by Jeanne Loehnis, 2003)

There’s a circle of giving, a circle of life.
It’s the story we’re weaving as our light shines bright!
May we not take for granted any person’s precious part:
Every action, every kindness which comes from the heart.

In the circle of giving you’ve offered your hand.
Through the gift of receiving, I’ve learned to stand
on my own. And I now pass it along:
giving kindness to another. Help her grow strong.

It’s a circle of giving without any end.
As we share ourselves freely we’ll soon round the bend
so to see with eyes opened pure Love in everyone.
As we give, we receive now. We all are one.

How will you complete the circle today?

Pathmaker is a trickster

How do you choose your next steps? Do you make choices based on “what everyone else is doing”? Do you listen to what “they” say? Or, do you step out of the mainstream and listen to the calling of your heart and soul for guidance?

In my early days of writing songs, this lyric spilled out:

Follow My Soul

I’ve traveled in the city and followed other’s steps.
I’ve done each task before me. My life: a success.
I’ve learned well, for I thought all life’s answers were taught.
Now I’m starting over to dream in the clover – I hear new questions again.

The questions that are with me each day and through the night
sometimes send fear straight through me. I know not wrong from right.
Yet I know I must go through this uncertain time
and be with the feeling, as the Unknown’s revealing to me a new way to grow. Continue reading “Pathmaker is a trickster”

What’s wrong?

My husband is very perceptive. He can sense with pinpoint accuracy when something’s “off” in me. When he does, he often asks:

“What’s wrong?”

Sometimes, the question is helpful and I can identify and share what I’m preoccupied with and which I might label “bad” or “wrong”.  But, sometimes, there is nothing “wrong” at all and the question puts me in a defensive place.

One thing I appreciate about Buddhism is the message, “it just is” rather than “it’s good” or “it’s bad”, “it’s right – or it’s wrong”.

With that in mind, he and I talked about his question and came up with this reframe: Continue reading “What’s wrong?”

Manifestation of Resistance

Perhaps you have heard the phrase:

What you resist, persists.

When we resist life’s challenges, avoid confrontation and take shortcuts, the underlying problem isn’t resolved. Rather, it persists and eventually returns, perhaps disguised a bit differently. Resisting or avoiding keeps us from living into this message: The only way out is through.

During my training as a life coach, we explored resistance since this keeps people from growing into and expressing the life they want to live. This very helpful visual came with the discussion. Continue reading “Manifestation of Resistance”

Settling?

Often folks come to life coaching for support in living their fullest life, living into their dreams, moving beyond what feels like “settling” for the life experience they seem to be having. So when I heard this:

You are not settling – you are settling into the life you were meant to live.” ~ Polly Hensen

I also heard a momentary disconnect inside followed by:

“Yes! And …”

“Yes!” to looking back at where we have  been, the talents and skills we’ve developed, the relationships which really matter, the values which we hold near and dear.

“Yes!” to settling into the foundation of who we are now. 

“And …”

courageously discerning how we want to expand from this foundation.

Where are you NOW?
What is your foundation made of?
How are you meant to expand from here?
What support does your expansion need?