Category Archives: Personal Responsibility

How do you relate to time?

What is time?
What is it time for?
What if you’re late?
What if you miss out completely?
What’s your hurry?
What is wasting time?
What is the impact when the day melts away?

Lately I’ve been wrestling with time. Yes, that’s right. Time. In the midst of whatever I am doing (or not doing), I notice an internal struggle, a war in my thoughts. Even as I’ve chosen, for example, to write this blog post, and am trying to be with you and write something meaningful, there is another train of thought suggesting that I should be doing something else, that if I don’t get busy on that, I will not arrive there in time. If that doesn’t happen this week, I will have forever lost an opportunity.

Here’s the thing. Those thoughts are stealing energy from the task at hand. Continue reading How do you relate to time?

What do LISTEN and SILENT have in common?

Today I read a short article on the value of good listening skills which included this bit: Have you ever noticed that LISTEN and SILENT are formed from the same letters?

WOW! I hadn’t. Yet, real listening asks us to put a hold on speaking, to be silent and really hear what the other has to say, without interrupting to express an idea, ask a question, give advice.

How silent is your listening?

Let’s go a bit deeper. Continue reading What do LISTEN and SILENT have in common?

When has a good practice gone sour?

I didn’t journal today. I’ve journaled regularly, often daily, for 15 years. The practice has helped me clear my mind, understand life, discover creativity. I’ve suggested this practice to clients and friends.

Yet, today I didn’t write. Yesterday, my husband suggested that, just maybe, all that inner reflection was a cause – rather than a cure – for morning feelings of depression.

“But, no! It helps! I can’t stop. This practice has been so good for me over the years. Besides, I’ve suggested it to others. I can’t back away without looking or feeling out of integrity.” Continue reading When has a good practice gone sour?

Pack. Unpack. Resettle. Oh My!

I took a short vacation last week. As my friend and I were loading the car to return home, I said: “The part of vacation I don’t care for is the packing, unpacking and resettling.” And she, another life coach, looked at me and repeated:

Pack — Unpack — Resettle

Isn’t that what many of us do on this life journey? We pack in experiences and information. Then, at some point we step back, pause and unpack it. We try to make sense of it all by comparing these new bits to the existing bits in our brains and memory banks. We move some old thoughts aside, revise others, let go of what no longer fits. Ah… Continue reading Pack. Unpack. Resettle. Oh My!

School buses are running again …

Maybe this doesn’t impact you directly, but I am here today to suggest that, in fact, all of us are impacted by the return of the school bus. First, there is the obvious: traffic is interrupted as the red stop sign arm is extended. Hopefully, everyone is a bit more cautious knowing that there are young people waiting on the side of the road who aren’t necessarily paying attention to cars speeding by. Second, if you do have school age children in your home, everything shifts from wake up time to bed time, to helping with homework and attending extracurricular activities.

Let’s walk beyond all of that and into our future. Continue reading School buses are running again …