Category Archives: 12 Step Recovery

If you know what this is, then you know the power of the steps!

Yes, No, Counter Offer …

… and possibly maybe and later.

Huh?

I’ve spent much of my life practicing codependency:

“I don’t know, whatever YOU want”

in response to just about any request for my preferences – simple things like, “Where should we go for dinner?” or “What would you like to watch on television?”

I’ve also realized another form codependency takes: Continue reading Yes, No, Counter Offer …

More on believing…

Yesterday, I spent time with the notion of believing in Santa Claus:

Why Not Believe?

Today I’d like to take that one step further and explore belief in a Higher Power, God, Spirit, Universal Presence, Allah or a teaching such as that of the Buddha.

What value is there in faith traditions?
How does belief impact life?

I guess I can only speak for myself here. My own journey of belief has had a few twists and turns. I started life in a christian tradition and believed in God as the Creator of all life whose love was unconditional and who asked me to be and do good. I think the faith that grounded our family was a very important part of how we showed up in the world as good, hard working, trusting, loving people.

Then, life hit hard and I needed the 12 Step programs which talked about “God as I understand God” and a Higher Power. I think the deep pain in my life required me to believe in a whole new way. Trusting in something outside of myself, taking myself out of the driver’s seat in life, asking for help, softened me. I couldn’t keep doing life alone, my way. Believing that there were other powers in the universe supporting me was a gift.

Since then, I have explored many spiritual traditions and belief systems. I continue to expand and soften. I have experienced the power of meditation, come to understand the richness in the writings of many great spiritual teachers. The more I journey, the more I trust, the easier life becomes. This human life experience has challenges – lots of them! And when I focus only at the level of my humanity and try to solve problems on my own, I fail and life hurts. When I see a wider view, when I trust that we are supported by something bigger: Life, Love, a Master Creator, I let go. I allow life to be what it is – even the painful parts.

If believing is foreign to you, or if your belief system doesn’t support you in the way you’d like it to, stretch! Try something new. Read. Find a spiritual group. Meditate. Try a new church. Whatever you do, know that there is no right or wrong. Belief is personal. Your way can’t look like anyone else’s. Believing “is an inside job”.

What value would you find in believing?
How might your life change?

Yes, YOU deserve the gift of a life coach!

All of us get stuck now and then. Some of us land in this human stuck-ville for a very long time.

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I don’t think that’s how life is meant to be! We are meant to cherish life, enjoy it, be fully present in it. And there is not a one of us on planet Earth who does it alone! Think about all the people, all the things, all the knowledge, all the everything that has come to you through another.

Hiring a life a coach is simply being open about our need for help! That’s all. And what a powerful, personal, impactful “help” your coach will be.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Have you spent so long doing what you should that you don’t know what lights your inner fire?
  • Do stress and overwhelm run your life?
  • Are you free of your addiction but find life meaningless, without purpose and joy?
  • Does balance between work, home and self-care elude you?
  • Perhaps you are overflowing with ideas but find yourself trapped or stifled by your environment. Are you ready to take charge of your life?

Is it time for YOU to experience coaching?

Read more about life coaching HERE and contact Jeanne today for an exploratory coaching session.

White Knuckle Abstinence

Ideally, we move forward and take positive steps toward our goals by visioning the future and excitedly doing what it takes to get there. Unfortunately, that doesn’t always work. Sometimes we let life – or fear – get in the way even when the vision is compelling and glorious!

In 12-Step recovery, the phrase, “white knuckle abstinence” means doing whatever it takes to steer clear of our substance of choice whether that be alcohol, drugs, overeating, under eating, or gambling. This can be unpleasant and hard – yet possible with the help of supportive sponsors, meetings, inspirational readings.

What does “white knuckle abstinence” look like around vision work, around living a fulfilling, purposeful, passionate life? I think it is another tool in our tool box. Perhaps it’s the sledge hammer which may not do the prettiest work but does do something! Maybe it’s the hand saw when we really need a chain saw yet again, it moves us forward. Maybe it is an accountability partner. Maybe it’s getting up 15 minutes early each day to exercise – kicking and screaming all the way – but doing it.

If you’ve been stuck in a rut or backsliding on your dreams, ask yourself:

What would a dose of White Knuckle Abstinence look like?

Agile Living

If you are a computer programmer or web designer in today’s world, you have heard the phrase “agile programming”. Loosely defined, agile methodology is about approaching the project iteratively. When agile is practiced, programmers circle through the steps of discussion, definition, choosing a next deliverable, completing the task and rolling out a product. Then, they re-evaluate the whole project before choosing the task for the next iteration. This differs from older methods whereby the entire, massive project was outlined, documented, planned, started, and often failed or succeeded long after the deadline years later.

So what does agile have to do with natural, healthy living? What life lesson is there in “agile”? Continue reading Agile Living