Yesterday, I had a conversation with a dear friend who sees me as counter-cultural and unconventional and values these qualities in me. She feels the impact of my choices to practice powerful self-care, to honor the calling of my spiritual being, to be true to my values day in and day out. This gives her hope that it is possible to live in integrity with the unique beings that we are despite pressures from the world around us to sell our souls in service of “success” and society’s norms.
Having dreams, visioning where we want to go in life, what we want to create in life is powerful. Without them, it is easy to move through life on auto-pilot, expecting today to be like yesterday and doing the same things day in and day out.
Often, however, those of us who vision and want to live into our dreams set ourselves up with high expectations of ourselves and low tolerance for the learning curves, the journey from here to there. When we don’t meet those expectations, Continue reading “High Expectations”
Today, once again, I woke as a new being, changed from the woman who laid her head on the pillow last evening.
I am changing.
Don’t look at my body for proof (though you may see light emanating from my energy field). No, this change is within, the result of a courageous inward journey.
Old ideas, beliefs and rules are softening or melting away. Continue reading “Metamorphosis”
How do you choose your next steps? Do you make choices based on “what everyone else is doing”? Do you listen to what “they” say? Or, do you step out of the mainstream and listen to the calling of your heart and soul for guidance?
In my early days of writing songs, this lyric spilled out:
Follow My Soul
I’ve traveled in the city and followed other’s steps.
I’ve done each task before me. My life: a success.
I’ve learned well, for I thought all life’s answers were taught.
Now I’m starting over to dream in the clover – I hear new questions again.
The questions that are with me each day and through the night
sometimes send fear straight through me. I know not wrong from right.
Yet I know I must go through this uncertain time
and be with the feeling, as the Unknown’s revealing to me a new way to grow. Continue reading “Pathmaker is a trickster”
My husband is very perceptive. He can sense with pinpoint accuracy when something’s “off” in me. When he does, he often asks:
Sometimes, the question is helpful and I can identify and share what I’m preoccupied with and which I might label “bad” or “wrong”. But, sometimes, there is nothing “wrong” at all and the question puts me in a defensive place.
One thing I appreciate about Buddhism is the message, “it just is” rather than “it’s good” or “it’s bad”, “it’s right – or it’s wrong”.
With that in mind, he and I talked about his question and came up with this reframe: Continue reading “What’s wrong?”