I Don’t Want To!

I think I’m having a temper tantrum. The calendar suggests that it is time to write to you. Everything else in my being is screaming, “No, don’t want to!”. I’d rather listen to the birds, feel this cool, fresh morning air, follow my breath. And I am aware that there is no one who can make me write to you (or do anything for that matter).

But, there is a voice, or many of them, inside my head. Which of these can you identify for yourself?

  • internalized, domineering parent
  • (over)responsibility and should
  • compassion, concern and love for those you serve, the lives you touch
  • inner self, soul, the “heart of me”
  • fear
  • something else?

How do you be with the voices in your head? For today, I want to encourage you to notice, be a witness to them. At any moment, each may have something of value for you. Hear what they have to say and then step back and choose with intention.

This morning, my tantrum is a fight between “responsibility and service” on the one hand, and “inner self and my heart” on the other. I guess that boils down to “you – or – me” in this moment. I have decided to find a way to make that, “you – and – me” because I believe that if it is good for my spirit, it is good for the human, connected spirit. And if it is not good in me, if my energy is negative, even in the midst of doing “good”, then it is not good for the human, connected spirit.

So, after writing about my tantrum, I took a break. I checked in with my spirit and honored her. Coming back to you now, I can write from a place of deeply caring about you and your walk in the world. That feels good. I trust that this message was needed by at least one of you reading it. You – and – Me.

Where are you dishonoring you while serving another?
What is your “you – and – me” today?

Checking in …

How do you check in with yourself each day? Does your morning start with an intentional pause to discern things like:

  • What MUST happen today?
  • Who needs a bit of attention today?
  • How prepared am I for what’s ahead?
  • What do I need to get grounded and ready?

I’ve had a “morning practice” for many years now, though it has changed many times. Recently, I made yet another change — inspired, actually, by a strong sense that my “grounding check-in” was actually ungrounding me and rendering me less prepared for the day ahead than before I got out of bed!


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What is your 1%?

Too often, when groups of people collaborate and something doesn’t go as planned, the impulse is to look “out there” and notice what “they did wrong” — to find blame. This happens at work, at home, truly anywhere we humans attempt to co-create. Employees blame leadership and vice versa, siblings are quick to point the finger, spouses also, unfortunately, notice the others’ failings before their own.

Are you willing to try something new?

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Today is YOUR birthday!

And today IS your birthday – if you choose. Just what do I mean? Well, when I think of birthdays, I think of anticipation, excitement, celebration, fresh start, new beginnings, joy and children. When I think of children, I think of carefree, unburdened, naturally bold, uninhibited.

Not your experience of today? What keeps you from waking to the day with the fresh anticipation of a child? Continue reading “Today is YOUR birthday!”

From the edge of my growth…

When was the last time you were courageous enough to have a conversation where:

  • you went beyond “reporting the news”?
  • you let down your guard?
  • you explored the unknown?
  • you learned something about you?

In 2014, I wrote the following in What’s Alive In Me Now? Time for the journey of your life! 

What if this is a book of connection? What if this is simply a story … a story of human experience, human evolution, spiritual expansion, coming into one’s own? You see, that is what feels most vital to me now. When I share from the edge of my growth, I share with purpose and passion, energy and joy! When I simply relate what I have done or things I have learned, I get bored.

Every day we have opportunities to connect deeply, to explore together, to live from the edge of our growth. Yet, often, we don’t. From starter questions like: Continue reading “From the edge of my growth…”