Category Archives: Life Coaching

Meditation and Stillness: What’s the big deal?

Undoubtedly you’ve heard the word meditation tossed about in recent years. You’ve been told that it has value, helps reduce stress and anxiety, clears your mind and helps with focus. (If you want more, Deepak Chopra offers much in his article, Why Meditate?)

If you are still not convinced or willing to devote time to a personal meditation practice, I’d like to give you an image that may help. Continue reading Meditation and Stillness: What’s the big deal?

How do you relate to time?

What is time?
What is it time for?
What if you’re late?
What if you miss out completely?
What’s your hurry?
What is wasting time?
What is the impact when the day melts away?

Lately I’ve been wrestling with time. Yes, that’s right. Time. In the midst of whatever I am doing (or not doing), I notice an internal struggle, a war in my thoughts. Even as I’ve chosen, for example, to write this blog post, and am trying to be with you and write something meaningful, there is another train of thought suggesting that I should be doing something else, that if I don’t get busy on that, I will not arrive there in time. If that doesn’t happen this week, I will have forever lost an opportunity.

Here’s the thing. Those thoughts are stealing energy from the task at hand. Continue reading How do you relate to time?

When has a good practice gone sour?

I didn’t journal today. I’ve journaled regularly, often daily, for 15 years. The practice has helped me clear my mind, understand life, discover creativity. I’ve suggested this practice to clients and friends.

Yet, today I didn’t write. Yesterday, my husband suggested that, just maybe, all that inner reflection was a cause – rather than a cure – for morning feelings of depression.

“But, no! It helps! I can’t stop. This practice has been so good for me over the years. Besides, I’ve suggested it to others. I can’t back away without looking or feeling out of integrity.” Continue reading When has a good practice gone sour?

It’s All Invented!

A shoe factory sends two marketing scouts to a region of Africa to study the prospects for expanding business. One sends back a telegram saying:

SITUATION HOPELESS STOP NO ONE WEARS SHOES

The other writes back triumphantly:

GLORIOUS BUSINESS OPPORTUNITY STOP
THEY HAVE NO SHOES

This simple story used by Benjamin and Rosamund Stone Zander in The Art of Possibility is their invitation to possibility. They suggest that in the world we inhabit – “it’s all invented”. How often have you shared an experience with someone (a meeting, a movie, a meal, …) and, in discussing it afterwards, you find little that the two of you can agree on? Continue reading It’s All Invented!

How do you limit yourself with either/or?

Think about it. How often do you fixate on “the way” or “the right choice”? When you know like this, do you notice that you can quickly list all the reasons why “this” is right and “that” is wrong? This way of thinking can drive a wedge between two people in relationship, each of whom thinks they are right and other is wrong. In business this can show up, for example, in one group focusing solely on quality, regardless of price, and the other insisting on cost control.

How do we move beyond these stuck points?

Continue reading How do you limit yourself with either/or?