We are only capable of seeing from our own state of consciousness.
Have you ever tried to explain something deeply important to you and found the listener totally unable to grasp the essence?
On the other hand, have you experienced the gift of someone who is right there with you, and can even help you see your next steps? For instance:
- A teacher who has great impact is able to meet you where you are, see from your current perspective, then draw you forth to take in and learn from a wider view.
- An empathic individual feels what you feel, meets you where you are emotionally, and only then, if you desire, guides you forward.
- A good physical trainer does the same – evaluates where you are and offers the exercise plan which will step you forward.
Have you ever put yourself physically at the level of a child
and seen the world from their perspective?
Today, each time you witness something wildly different from your “sensibilities”, remember:
I see from my experiential viewpoint.
Then ask yourself:
- What is it that has this person doing, saying or thinking “that”?
- What would have this thing created in this “strange” way?
Rather than, “different – wrong” consider:
Different – Of course!
We all see, create and choose from our personal, unique perspective. Some of us are able to “put ourselves in another’s shoes” and see as they see. Some of us, not so much.
A friend or family member, teacher or mentor, who can “see as you see” is a precious gift. The gift is even more precious if they are wise enough not to judge or try to change or convince, force you to be/think/believe what you are not ready to embrace.
My greatest expansion has come from an invitation to the “new” from a trusted source – one who has met me first where I am.
Who in your life “meets you where you are”?
What would free you to meet others “where they are”?
Recently, I wrote about the power of listening and suggested four steps to help you improve your own deep listening. There are two other perspectives on listening that I’d like to address here:
- being a good listener to oneself
- moving beyond the impasse of broken connection in an intimate relationship
Sometimes, in relationship with someone we care deeply about, listening stops. Continue reading “Listening Power … continued!”
Listening, really present, deep listening is a gift that many of us never really receive. Think about it: when was the last time that you shared with another person or group and did not experience interruptions, fixing, opinions or “I know what you should do!”?
If you’ve had the gift of being listened to deeply, what was that like? What do you notice when you are able to share who you are and what is important to you in the moment and simply be heard?
How about your listening skills? Continue reading “Listening power …”
Recently, I wrote about metamorphosis – about changing from the inside out on this journey called life. Today I add this:
What about our relationships? If we are truly evolving within, changing how we think and feel and see the world around us, then our actions – how we express ourselves – are going to change. At some point, if we don’t tell them first, others will notice. Among family, friends, colleagues, acquaintances: Continue reading “You’ve Changed!”
Never deny anyone the opportunity to be helpful.
~ Jamie Loehnis
This week, I took my scooter to the local thrift shop. I found a rather large item which was perfect for the current creative project. I bought it – knowing that I might need to take the scooter home and trade it out for the car in order to get it to my house.
In the parking lot, a woman asked me, “What is that?” (Yes, it was an odd looking thing!) I told her that I really didn’t know what it was but, rather, how I was planning to use it. Then she watched me attempt to get this thing onto my scooter unsuccessfully. And she said, Continue reading “Circle of Giving”