What is your 1%?

Too often, when groups of people collaborate and something doesn’t go as planned, the impulse is to look “out there” and notice what “they did wrong” — to find blame. This happens at work, at home, truly anywhere we humans attempt to co-create. Employees blame leadership and vice versa, siblings are quick to point the finger, spouses also, unfortunately, notice the others’ failings before their own.

Are you willing to try something new?

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What am I to learn from you?

Today’s message is short; it is an invitation to a way of being in our lives. It is meant for you if you ever move through your days:

  • ignoring everything and everyone that isn’t “in the plan”
  • assuming that the person you are about to speak with has nothing of value to offer you
  • mindlessly doing the mundane tasks
  • afraid of what you are about to do or what the people around you are thinking

My invitation to you is this:

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Energy Drains: take back your life!

Do you ever feel like:

  • you are being pulled in too many directions?
  • there is too much being asked of you?
  • YOU are responsible for that person and that activity and this …?

Is it all too much? Recently, I read The Joy of Burnout by Dr. Dina Glouberman, where she provided a visual that describes this situation beautifully:

Picture someone or something you are over invested in. Imagine that your energy is like rays, or I like to say strands of spaghetti, coming out of a hole in the top of your head. The ends of the spaghetti are stuck in that person or thing. 

My imagination traded in that spaghetti for my blood vessels and I quite literally saw my life energy flowing out of me into those others.

Pick either image, close your eyes, and feel into it for a moment.
Imagine a strand for each attachment that drains you.

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What about YOU?

Recently we’ve explored relationships, considered investing deeply in one that we care about, releasing others which aren’t serving us in an effort to simplify. We’ve peaked at life from the toddler’s view and seen that assuming the best in people might be helpful. (*)

Today, we consider the most primary relationship in your life: YOU. You are the one person you can never walk away from, the one person whose choices, beliefs, health and well-being, actions and in-actions will ALWAYS affect you.

What is your relationship with you?

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Lesson from a toddler

When was the last time you were fully present with an infant or toddler? I’ve had the privilege of babysitting a grandson many times during his first 16 months. With an intention of “full attention” to him, I’ve learned so much! But one lesson stands out and bears repeating and practicing elsewhere in my life:

the child loves … and assumes you are good, loving, helpful

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