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Expand the Moment

Today’s thought is simple:

Expand the moment.

Whenever life seems especially challenging, you are experiencing tunnel vision, or you feel trapped in limitation and believe your choices go from bad to worse, expand the moment.

Imagine the current, dark, painful moment, however large or small you choose it to be, as outside of yourself and a real thing. Now, draw an imaginary circle around your “moment”. Let that circle begin to grow and grow. Do you see white space between the dark moment and the edge of the circle? As the circle continues to grow, imagine other aspects of your life filling it.

What is also present “now”?
What will you focus on in your next moment?

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How do you regard yourself?

Lately, I’ve invited folks into self-care, self-love, daring to put themselves first in service of the truth that you cannot give away what you do not possess. And I’ve been met with some disbelief, perhaps even disdain. The idea that we are to serve, to give, to do for others runs deep! And today, the word regard showed up in my writing:

Who do you hold in high regard?
What puts a person in that category for you?
Do you have high regard for someone who ignores their own well-being for the sake of others?

How about you? Do your actions tell people:

I value YOU and I do not value ME?
Do you hold yourself in high regard?
What if you did?

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Practice Beholding

Today’s thought is an invitation. The next time you find yourself faced with something or someone that upsets you, doesn’t meet your desires, triggers your “I want to fix this” gene, try this:

Practice Beholding

It’s simple. Whatever “it” is, step back far enough to behold it as you would witness a sunset or behold the painting of a great master. Nothing in you would ever try to change the sunset or the painting, true? You would receive it for what it is and allow its beauty to touch you deeply. So again I say, when you are triggered:

Behold the situation – Behold the person

Free of any desire or impulse to change or control, just be with it.

What do you notice IN YOU now?

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The Quick Recovery

I have written before about perfectionism and the beautifully imperfect human being that each of us is.  Today’s message is a short postscript:

Become adept at the Quick Recovery

When you notice that you have “failed”, been “imperfect”, not lived up to your expectations, caused pain in yourself or another, be quick to remember you are a beautifully imperfect human being! Then:

Take a deep breath.
Forgive yourself.
Love yourself.
Embrace your perfectly imperfect human expression.

From this place of love, compassion and inner freedom and wholeness ask:

 What now?

Do it.

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Ready for a shift?

Bring to mind a situation, relationship or belief that both challenges you and that you are ready to experience shift around. Got it? Now be with these questions in the way that works best for you. You may journal, speak aloud, talk with a trusted friend. Ready?

  • What will happen if nothing changes?
  • What is the payoff in staying stuck?
  • What is the ideal outcome?
  • What is it worth to you?
  • What three steps will move you toward it?
  • Which steps will you take?
  • By when?