Really, how well have you perfected the skill of self-judgment? What are the areas in your life where your inner judge is particularly active? What is the difference between judging and:
Next time you find your harsh, inner judge all too active, pause. Give the judge a rest and try being with yourself in a gentler, softer way. Take a deep breath. Notice. Acknowledge what is present. Discern what, if anything, you would like to shift and accept the rest for now. Take a step.
How does your being respond to gentle?