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No one gets to be wrong!

Imagine how this one idea might transform your relationships:

No one gets to be wrong!

Imagine:

  • conversations where the goal wasn’t to discover who is right but, rather, to connect, converse, share ideas
  • seeking to align rather than agree, discern what combination of possibilities lands in win-win or in mutual respect and agreeing to disagree in love

How many fewer verbal battles would we be part of?
How much more patience and acceptance might we experience?
How much more might we be open to?

What might life include when we aren’t so busy making others wrong?

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Let Me Get Back To You On That!

Do you ever say YES to an opportunity without thinking and later wish you hadn’t? Has your YES habit landed you in resentment, too busy, frustration? Do you find that the energy you then bring to these activities is sour?

We could dig into WHY so many of us are “yes persons”. And often that includes things like a desire to be liked or loved or to look good. But not today. Today is for changing your response, one answer at a time.

Imagine taking back your personal power and being able to say YES when you mean YES and NO or “Perhaps another time” when that is your truth.

Ready?

The next time you are about to say YES without thinking, try this simple 4-step process:

Let me get back to you on that!

  1. PAUSE: Respond with “Let me get back to you on that by [date]”
  2. JOURNAL: What is true about this for me? Why do I want to do it? Why not? What is the impact of YES? What is the impact of NO? Is NOT THIS TIME but interested next time your truth?
  3. DECIDE: What is my decision?
  4. COMMUNICATE: Let the questioner know of your empowered YES or NO or LATER.

This process works when the questioner is a friend or family member wanting you to do something. It also works if the questioner is YOU wanting to skip exercise or eat unhealthfully or abandon yourself in some other way. Here you might “get back to yourself” in 5 or 10 minutes.

What will it be like to make self-honoring decisions?
What will it be like not to resent what you agree to?
What will it be like to keep commitments joyfully?

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What keeps you awake at night?

CutToTheCore

Bring to mind a situation, relationship, belief that both challenges you and that you are ready to experience shift around.  

Got it?  Now:

 

  • What part of this keeps you awake at night?
  • If this piece was resolved today, what would be the result?
  • If that really happened, what would it mean to you?
  • If it means nothing, why do you bother?
  • What are three options that come to mind now?
  • What is the first step for you?
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Paint With Love …

Today’s tidbit is just this …

Paint with love.

In the moments of your day, as you engage with people at home, at work, at play, wherever you are and whatever you do, imagine you are painting with love. Imagine you are creating and co-creating the effects of your life using love as the only color, love as the energy.

Now imagine this: Love is the canvas.

What do you create when you paint on love with love?

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Taking the “K” out of FUNK

Okay, I woke up in a funk. Emotions were heavy in my heart space. I felt like I was on the slippery slope down towards depression.

Does this ever happen to you?

Some days, I go down the slope. Sometimes, I try to figure out what negative thing is causing the heaviness. Today, I tried something different. I decided to take the K out of my funk:

FUNK minus K (a.k.a. “K”illjoy) equals FUN!

And it worked! As soon as I refused to listen to the voice of killjoy, I began to hear what it is that delights my spirit, that brings a smile to my face, what it is that I consider fun.

The next time you find yourself in a funk, try removing Mr. Killjoy and ask:

What is fun to me?
(even if no one else thinks it’s fun!)
Who might enjoy that kind of fun with me?
(ask them!)
When can I schedule a dose of that fun?
(make it happen!)